I like to think that the people who are in my life are there because they continue to offer their spark and originality that continues to make my life more rich, cultured, and uplifting. Sometimes though when people say "Hey let's hang out on Friday night", for example. You catch yourself thinking, "Ok cool", but in the back of your mind you would rather be playing video games/ trying out a new recipe/ getting creative with some art/ working on your hobby/ or being queen of the dance floor in a t-shirt and no make-up / or anything else really.
When did we become so addicted to being in a crowd? I remember when I was in highs school and I couldn't even go to the bathroom without having my posse go in there with me. Or being at a fitting room trying on some clothes with 3 or 4 of my friends in there and not all of them were trying on clothes. I admit, it wasn't all annoying or bothersome all the time. Fortunately, I have a pretty crazy sense of humor. So I don't want to promote being anti-social or anything like that, I'm a teacher, I love to travel, and I know 4 languages, I'm married, and I just really really enjoy my time being alone.
One time I went to Italy with some friends. After the first night they were all partied out and hung over for a long time. I'm not a schedule keeper or anything like that, but I did want to see a lot more than just my hotel room. I ditched them several times. One day for example, I went to Venice on my own. It was one of the most amazing days of my life. I took several water taxis, went to Murano Island, walked around the entire city, met some cool travelers from different countries, had an awesome lunch in great company, went shopping, dancing, took some awesome photos, etc. When I got back to my room, most of them were still sleeping and others were complaining of how boring this vacation was....WTH? I had a lot of moments like that when I was in a crowd. Even moments like when you really want to do something and someone is dragging you down asking not to leave them alone. BUT YOU WANT TO GO! I say go. Get it out of your system, because if you don't you'll never know what if. If these people are your friends, they will love you and understand how you are. Don't leave them in any danger though.
All kinds of people are different, sure. And some do better in a group than on their own, I suppose, and that's totally cool if that's what they want. Still, there are other people that make incredible things happen when they're alone. When your alone, you're kind of forced to get in touch with your creativity, fantasy, and inner desires. You let go of a lot knowing you're in the company of the most unique person you know, yourself. You grow, you become stronger, you meditate upon your life and things you want, you can invest time in building a new project, plan, or life style. You can be as silly, sexy, beautiful, strong, or as fragile as you desire. I always opt for the things that put me in a good mood though. Think about it, if you're forced to be alone for a long period of time, what the hell are you going to do if you've never taken a chance to know yourself really?
Food for thought, since today I turned down two opportunities to go hang out at a social club and have tea with one person who complains all the time and talks about everyone else' business, and another who is a worry-holic and lives vicariously other people's problems....I don't get it.
Have a wonderful day, if it sucks...then make it wonderful. :) Peace, love, and art.
